Some days I wonder why it has to be
so hard.
so hard.
I look at friends facebook updates
and see a sea of smiling children. Status updates read like glowing resumes of
perfect babies and toddlers.
and see a sea of smiling children. Status updates read like glowing resumes of
perfect babies and toddlers.
There are reports of toddlers who
“ate really well today” or pictures of kids smiling at a restaurant.
“ate really well today” or pictures of kids smiling at a restaurant.
Updates that read, “my son has been
playing alone for half an hour should I be afraid”.
playing alone for half an hour should I be afraid”.
All such images of perfection.
And I think, why isn’t my life like
that. Why does my son nap for only an hour a day? And why is every trip to a restaurant
a disaster unless it happens before 5:00? Why doesn’t he eat everything the way
he did when he was little?
that. Why does my son nap for only an hour a day? And why is every trip to a restaurant
a disaster unless it happens before 5:00? Why doesn’t he eat everything the way
he did when he was little?
Why does everything have to be so
hard?
hard?
I picked Jack up from the gym today
and was told by the daycare teacher that he was “having a bad day”, which I
could see from the tears streaming down his face.
and was told by the daycare teacher that he was “having a bad day”, which I
could see from the tears streaming down his face.
As I wiped his tears and walked to
the car I thought, “why can’t he be the kid who loves the gym daycare?”
the car I thought, “why can’t he be the kid who loves the gym daycare?”
And then I saw a mom with two kids
one about 4 and another about 3 years old. The younger one had plopped himself in
the middle of the parking lot and proceeded to scream. The mother attempted to
get him up a few times before she picked him and swung him over her shoulder
and carried him into the gym.
one about 4 and another about 3 years old. The younger one had plopped himself in
the middle of the parking lot and proceeded to scream. The mother attempted to
get him up a few times before she picked him and swung him over her shoulder
and carried him into the gym.
Then I remembered it is hard, for
everyone, not just me. And those hard moments rarely make it to Facebook status
updates.
everyone, not just me. And those hard moments rarely make it to Facebook status
updates.
Do you ever have hard days and feel like your the only one who has them?
Oh that pic cracks me up!
I think people tend to share only the positive on fb and ignore the bad moments.
I agree, that's why I love that pic so much.
Any honest parent feels the same way and you just need to look around. I see it every day dropping the kids off at school. If it isn't my day to argue with Nick about leaving his toy in the car it is another parent looking helpless as their kid throws a fit on the ground or pleading with a child just as I do.
I know you are right. I think sometimes being home that I forget that everyone out there is dealing with the same things.
EXACTLY. Sometimes I try to put the crappy stuff on facebook, too, because I get sick of reading all of the fluff. It's so hard for everyone sometimes. Even the moms and kids that "have it all together."
I love when people post the crappy stuff, rather than just the nice stuff.
Oh yeah people are totally pumping themselves up on FB. It is kind of sad actually.
You make a good point it is sad.
That quote is utterly HYSTERICAL!!!!! I don't FB but I do try and keep it real on my blog. I want my blog to be a journal, something for our kids to read and relive memories. I want them to know me as a young mother, my happiness, fears, joys, problems, everything. I would never want them to only see the good and fun, that's not my real life.
You do keep it real on your blog that's one of the reasons I so enjoy it.
"Mommy-FaceBook-Brags" are annoying… (esp when they think the world needs to know their child pooped on the toilet… how would they like if someone posted about their bathroom habits??)
And, you are SO RIGHT– we only see a small-happy-glimpse, not the hard stuff… no one posts that, much anyway.
THANKS for visiting my blog–
http://kabersblog.blogspot.com
So annoying I think an occasional brag is fine but the endless streams of perfection drive me bonkers. And posting about bathroom habits should always be off limits.
I have kids who are no so easy sometimes. My blog might usally depict something else but I've put a few "not so good" things on there and FB before. Just this morning, K ran ALL THE WAY to the back of the grocery store while I was checking out and instead of anyone helping me catch her, they are just stared at me like I was a bad mother. Because what to do when your other child is still at the front and you have to pay the cashier…
Anyway, end of rant. I get it. And yes we ALL struggle, even those not posting about it. 😉
xo
Elaine I think you blog has a great balance of both. I always check out your blog when i want a little burst of happy. Your story about K makes me laugh though I can imagine how stressful that moment must have been.