This time of year is always hectic for us. It’s Jacks Birthday and Thanksgiving and oh so crazy busy. So much so that I find myself feeling guilty about everything. About every little mistake, slip-up, and forgotten item on my to-do list.
I just can’t seem to do it all, especially not this week. And I feel guilty, about a bunch of things that in a few weeks won’t even matter. But today I feel like they matter all too much.
Like the fact that Jack’s birthday party became more about watching football and hanging out then a 4 year-old birthday party. (Even though he had fun and only cared that there were presents and friends).
And that his birthday party was at home rather than at a fun play place.
And that we kept his party to family, rather than having all his friends over.
Or that I forgot his lunch on Monday, which led to tears.
Or that I failed to tell his teacher on Friday that Monday was his birthday and now they have to celebrate it next week because I didn’t know everyone’s birthday is celebrated with a special snack. (Hey birthday celebrations last a little longer, right)
That I’m not contributing to the Thanksgiving Feast at school because by the time I looked at the list everything had already been picked. (But I contribute to every other party so it’s OK, right?)
And that I currently don’t have a dessert for Thanksgiving.
And that I forgot whipped cream for the dessert I don’t currently have.
And I picked up Apple Snaps, instead of ginger snaps to which Jack said, “yuck” and I sighed cause I really needed ginger snaps for the pie that I was going to make for Thanksgiving. (Who even knew there were Apple Snaps)
That I’ve been to 2 different grocery stores, one more than twice and still forgot things for Thanksgiving.
That after hosting Thanksgiving for 3 or 4 years now I still don’t have my s*** together.
And I haven’t done any Christmas shopping.
And I missed a lightening deal on Tinker toys. (Not that they are even on Jack’s list but I wanted to get them for him cause I think he would love them)
And I forgot my Shop Rite card and wasn’t able to donate my turkey.
That I’ve already consumed too many calories this week. (But another slice of birthday cake and a glass of wine is OK…)
That this post isn’t about Jack turning 4 because I just haven’t had time to write that post.
And this post doesn’t have a pinnable image cause I just don’t have time for that.
That all of these silly little things have left me in a bit of a funk, that I’m desperately trying to shake. And while I know they are all minor things, that I really don’t need to feel guilty about them, for some reason I can’t shake the sense that I’m failing this week. And what I really need is a glass of wine, Love Actually and a Black Friday sandwich.
Do you feel guilty about little things? And why do Moms have so much guilt about nonsense?
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I haven't done any Christmas shopping either. I did the big friend parties when my kids were little. And you know what? They really don't even remember them now. But now that they're older and would remember, I have zero desire to do the big parties and I feel guilty about that.
Football tends to overshadow birthdays in my family, too.
I had two desserts planned. And then I decided to scrap one because I found one in the bakery of the grocery store that tastes amazing, would mean I didn't have to do more baking, and it was actually cheaper than the ingredients for what I was making. I'm the only one doing cooking for our meal b/c I'm the host and my husband's family never brings anything. Yet, I feel guilty that something won't be homemade? It's just silly.
Yes, yes, and yes again. I feel guilty that we haven't left the house until after noon both days my kids have been out of school, because I have too much to do on my computer. That I, too, have already packed on my "holiday weight" and we haven't even started the holidays yet. And like you, it's not just ONE thing, it's all the things compiled together. But somehow, we'll get through this, right?
We all have that guilt which makes us moms and humans. But you are a rock star mom and he is a rock star kid. I saw him on his birthday and he was happy. Very happy. Just count down the hours until that leftovers sandwich on Friday. And let's pick a date to go to Wingcraft.
Yes, the guilt. Ever present. I hear you. I decided not to host Thanksgiving this year. Or to travel to anyone else's house either. And my girl's birthday is this Sunday and we may or may not have family over that day either, keep changing my mind about inviting her friends…realize it's too late now. Feeling sorrynotsorry about this. I keep having to take deep breaths because I feel like I "should"______ (fill in the blank) so many things. What struck me is when you said "And I feel guilty, about a bunch of things that in a few weeks won't even matter." I need to have that mindset more often. Ask myself if this is going to matter in 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 days, 5 years. It sounds like the important things got done, like love and family and being together. You are a amazing mom…and a normal mom. Have that glass and one for me too 🙂 Have a blessed holiday!