Those without kids just don’t know.
They don’t know what life is like
with a child and I can’t blame them for that.
with a child and I can’t blame them for that.
They don’t know the way it feels to
come home from work to a smiling face only to have to whisk that sweet face off
to bed in a few hours.
come home from work to a smiling face only to have to whisk that sweet face off
to bed in a few hours.
They don’t know what it’s like to
walk out the door in the morning and leave a piece of their heart with someone
else.
walk out the door in the morning and leave a piece of their heart with someone
else.
They don’t know how precious every
moment is. How between the hours at work, and the hours sleeping, and the hours
doing house work, that there are so few hours when I can just be with my son.
moment is. How between the hours at work, and the hours sleeping, and the hours
doing house work, that there are so few hours when I can just be with my son.
They don’t know that I want to be
with my son, with my family, more than anything. More than drinking, or dancing, or
dinners out.
with my son, with my family, more than anything. More than drinking, or dancing, or
dinners out.
They don’t know that I don’t feel
like I’m missing out. That nights that end at 3 am have long ago lost their
cache.
like I’m missing out. That nights that end at 3 am have long ago lost their
cache.
They don’t know that the best restaurant
in town can’t make me smile the way I do when my son eats all of his homemade pasta.
in town can’t make me smile the way I do when my son eats all of his homemade pasta.
They don’t know how much larger and
brighter my world has become because I had a kid.
brighter my world has become because I had a kid.
Where they see missed nights out
and quiet nights at home. I see comfort, contentment, happiness. I see an early
Sunday morning eating donuts and laughing at Bert and Ernie.
and quiet nights at home. I see comfort, contentment, happiness. I see an early
Sunday morning eating donuts and laughing at Bert and Ernie.
Where they see missed luxury
vacations. I see trips to Sesame Place and Disney World. I see moments sharing
all the things I love about live with my kids.
vacations. I see trips to Sesame Place and Disney World. I see moments sharing
all the things I love about live with my kids.
I see that there is so much more
than the parties, the dinners, the clubs and the fancy clothes. I see the calm
comfort in sweatpants and snuggles.
than the parties, the dinners, the clubs and the fancy clothes. I see the calm
comfort in sweatpants and snuggles.
I see a love that they just don’t know. And
I hope that someday if they are lucky, that they will know.
I hope that someday if they are lucky, that they will know.
Have you ever struggled to find understanding with your friends who don’t have kids? How do you bridge the gap?
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When you are the first of your friends to have children there is always a little bit of a gap. But soon they will catch up and gain that same understanding that you have.
Enjoy your little boy!
I enjoy every minute : ) I'm actually not the first of my friends to have kids, I hope the rest of my friends catch up.
They will hopefully get it one day just like you have. Some people take a bit longer and some people find it isn't the right fit for them. The most important thing is that you know that you are right where you belong and are very happy there. Enjoy every minute of your family time!! 🙂
You have a great perspective on this, thank you.
Beautiful. This is so true and wonderfully written.
Thank you I'm glad you enjoyed it.
It's impossible to understand before having kids!
I keep reminding myself of this, that at one time I too did not get it.
Yes yes yes! I do not want to find a babysitter to go to your parties and I won't apologize for that. I never have enough time with my daughter. I may seem inflexible. I may seem antisocial. I may seem "boring". Nothing is further from the truth and I love my boring, antisocial life!!! It's full of ice team for dinner, movies in bed and more side splitting laughter than I could ever imagine.
I love your comment, it fits my thoughts exactly : ) I too love my boring, antisocial life.
Having kids definitely changes your perspective… and there is no going back to before. That is something no one can fully get until they've been there. I have given up on trying to make it understood among those who can never understand… now I just accept that they don't quite get it (as hard as they try to sometimes!) Really, no one can ever understand your own life except you, Right?
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It does create a gap. I don't think anyone can fully understand until they have kids of their own.
I love it and agree with every single word, just beautiful. Home is comfort. We should always make our home happy and warm so our kids always want to be here. What a beautiful love letter to your son.
We were the first of our circle of friends to have a child. They didn't understand how it changed our lives but in a good way. They really don't get it until they have one.
Great post.