I remember watching the episode of Sex and the City when Carrie turned 35, at the time I was under 25 and thought 35 was so far away. And while I related to Carrie and company more in my 20’s than I do in my 30’s, I can definitely relate to Carrie’s botched birthday party and the feeling of apprehension about turning 35. Last year my birthday party turned into a bit of a train wreck, and had me swearing off planning anything this year. And I must admit that turning a year older is making me feel like I’m getting old.
I’ve learned a lot this year and had some major life changes this year. We welcomed a daughter, we lost Bailey our much-loved dog and adopted Elvis. 34 had its ups and downs and while I learned a lot last year, this year I learned some new lessons and relearned some old ones.
35 Things I Know at 35
You can never have too many friends. I said it last year and I’ll say it again because this year it was more true than it has ever been before.
Never anchor yourself to someone, spread your wings, always have room in your circle.
Marry your best friend, this makes it easier when things are tough.
Sometimes you have to say yes to a risk.
Know when to leave the party.
Pets really are family, and the loss doesn’t leave you.
Rescue animals, do not shop for a pet, they will be the most grateful and loyal pets.
Pregnancy is harder the older you get.
Treat yourself even if it’s just to a cupcake or a 10 minute break.
Call your mom and your dad.
Remember the people who were there for you even when you didn’t want the company.
Have one friend that you can text or message your snarky thoughts to, so that they don’t come out of your mouth.
Say what you mean, say how you feel.
Don’t apologize for having an opinion even if it’s not a popular one.
The beach is always the answer.
The right bra can change your whole day.
Plan for abundance
Sometimes the best way to support someone is to keep your mouth shut.
They were right when they said 2 kids is exponentially harder but you are also loved that much more.
Don’t knock it till you tried it.
Make time for your friends, even when you don’t want to.
Don’t let one thing, one person or one mistake define you.
Two pink lines can change everything.
Build a village that will support you, stand by you, and hold your screaming child for you.
You have to set limits and know your own limits.
It’s OK to spend a day vegging in front of the TV and it’s OK for kids too.
It’s OK to need time to yourself.
Marry someone who lets you be you.
A good baby monitor is a blessing and a curse.
Coffee first, always coffee. Nothing that is said before the coffee counts.
Take them to Disney when they are young.
It really does go too fast.
The dishes and laundry can always wait.
Eat the cupcake, drink the wine, read the book, hug a friend, hold a hand, pet your dog, and rock the baby a minute longer. When I was younger I took entirely too much for granted. I always wanted things to remain the same. Now I know nothing stays the same and time moves fast and no matter how much time you have you always find yourself wanting more.
35, I’m so not ready for you and yet I can’t wait to see what adventures you have in store.
I didn’t understand that scene until I turned 35 either. 30 was a piece of cake so I didn’t think 35 would be hard. Boy was I wrong. Happy Birthday!